Step parenting

[grindcorejoe]

Fellas, I know this prolly isn’t the place for advice on serious matters but looking for non biased opinions. I know what my close friends will say if I talk to them, that being said…

I have two kids from a previous woman they are both under 6 years of age. My wife has been telling me that she won’t watch my kids because she is stressed and needs her off day to herself, and that she isn’t their mother. Therefore it isn’t her responsibility. Between the two of us we have a total of three nights four days during the summer where I could have my kids by me. However considering what she said this changes it all. Also she wants to have a kid. I’ll add that she does buy them clothes and things an pay for summer activities such as swimming for them. She also booked a water park resort for us all to go to soon. Thoughts?

 

[JDLift]

Women do not accept other women's children into their lives. It's almost animalistic, look at wild animals and how they'll raise their own young but sooner kill or watch die the young of another animal. Women are like this and some men are as well but it's far more prevalent in women.
Women bond with their children in the womb, they love the children that came from their bodies. Men did not carry the child but we possess the ability to develop love for the child regardless.
Your wife did not birth your two children, thus she never formed a bond with them and likely is incapable of doing so. Some women are able to do this but it's incredibly uncommon. All signs point that she is both incapable and unwilling to attempt to change it.

Personally when children are in the mix and the new woman won't accept them, that is an instant deal breaker. Those children are yours, they aren't something you have a choice over and they will love you unconditionally- The new woman in your life is a choice you make and she is replaceable. Even if she's a 12/10 knockout, has a good job, isn't retarded, has proper moral values/isn't a whore, and generally has her life together but doesn't accept your children then she's not wife material.

I'd suggest trying to talk to her about it all at length and really voice your opinions and feelings, go to a counselor to help mediate if you'd feel more comfortable that way but if she won't budge on this issue then it needs to be understood clearly that she's not the woman for you and your children. I know it's harder to make these calls and have these talks when you're invested emotionally and it definitely is 'easier said than done' but you're gonna have to try. Remember, the person you choose to be with is not only a massive part of your life but also the lives of your children and they have zero say in the matter so the burden of making the right choice is all on you.

 

[MikeAlstott]

Just hire a nanny or ask a relative/friend if they can look after them.