Dating in your 30s

[Sierracon99]

I fucked up and missed my window. At 22, 9/11 happened so I loaded up and went to the AFG for 7 years. Then I was back and spent 2 years chasing this bitch who friend zoned me, then me and her spent 7 years together, with me trying to fix an alcoholic. Now I’m back to dating again. And boy is it fucked up. Girls now don’t even want relationships. You want a peep into dating, get on tiktok. But be warned… you may just become a hermit. We’ve always had gold diggers but it’s worse than ever. They’re all after this mythical unicorn that’s extremely good looking and makes 7 figures. 2 years ago ago while in vegas, I ended up meeting this girl. Met her at the roulette well, told me she was 25. I actually thought 27. We go on a few dates. Turns out she’s actually 19. At this point I’m 40, but I’m like, fuck it… she’s legal. Neither of us wanted a relationship. I wasn’t living in vegas at the time, but I was there every 3 weeks or so. I was like, this will be great, I can do whatever and have someone to see when I’m town! But 2 years in, we start getting kind of serious. At this point we’re meeting families, etc. We’re spending every week together. So finally we have the talk about exclusivity! She goes on about how we are dating, and we don’t need some Instagram post to say that, and she’s not seeing or fucking anyone else, buttt, she won’t agree to be exclusive. I was like wtf? She goes on this rant about how she doesn’t want a relationship with anyone, but how I should be happy with how things are, bc we are dating. And that’s how most girls are nowadays! Constantly waiting for the better thing. I’ve had a couple fucked up experiences since.

Oddly, miss 19 y/o Vegas girl who’s now 21 started blowing me up a couple weeks ago. Been a year since we talked. Ofc she’s “dating” this former NFL guy, but she’s pulling this, we’re in an open relationship, i can do what I want. Hahaha. I flew into vegas Monday to see her, and she Broke down crying to me Telling me how In love with me she was. But still states she won’t do a full serious relationship with me, or anyone! LoL. Sooo many girls are like this now.

Funny thing is, I’m probably one of those “unicorns”… I make really good money, I have exotics (I don’t let girls know or see them till like the 4th or 5th date), travel weekly, I was a former operator so they should feel protected, etc. I’ve had other girls go googly eyes over some of the girls I’ve dated, so I think I’m probably pretty decent looking. But even I’m still sitting through trash and can’t lock one down.

Well I say that, but I do have a loyal, low body count 24 y/o I started seeing 6-7 months ago, that’s absolutely gorgeous. But she’s also crazy AF’! She flew across a table at some girl the other day that was just talking to me. I guess you got to just choose your level of crazy.

But Shits fucked up. I’ve had girls in a bar or restaurant that I hit on, look me up and down and ask me how much I make and what I drive? I laugh and say what?!?! They then laugh back and tell me I couldn’t afford them. Same girls will later see valet pull up my car or something and come running up to talk to me. There’s a whole generation that’s ducked up. And unfortunately girls above 30 usually aren’t attractive to me (there’s some rare cases) or they have kids.

The real fucked up thing is, as mentioned above, I’m considered a red flag bc I’m 40+ and no kids and never married…. Bc I chose to go fight and then got locked into a long term relationship lol. Tate was right about one thing … as men get older, our sexual Value goes up. We’re more mature, financially secure, etc. as women age, they lose value as their looks fade. Keep that in mind as you weed through this BS!

I feel you bro, I served from 04-14 in OIF and OEF. Definitely put a huge damper on being able to have a normal dating life. I'd be home for max 6-8 months tyen I'd be gone again so it was partygirls mostly and nothing serious. I did have one that I tried to make it work with and yeah it obviously went up in flames when I was gone. Later in my career I met my ex-wife but yeah that was a messy toxic relationship from the start and I blame my general inexperience for that lasting as long as it did, like you I chose to serve instead of getting to experience dating etc while young and learn how fucked people can be. I pull little hotties myself but I can't stand the younger ones, the attractiveness goes out the window when they open their mouth to speak basically. Tate is a G btw lol.

 

[Thrasymachus]

I feel you bro, I served from 04-14 in OIF and OEF. Definitely put a huge damper on being able to have a normal dating life. I'd be home for max 6-8 months tyen I'd be gone again so it was partygirls mostly and nothing serious. I did have one that I tried to make it work with and yeah it obviously went up in flames when I was gone. Later in my career I met my ex-wife but yeah that was a messy toxic relationship from the start and I blame my general inexperience for that lasting as long as it did, like you chose to serve instead of getting to experience dating etc while young and learn how fucked people can be. I pull little hotties myself but I can't stand the younger ones, the attractiveness goes out the window when they open their mouth to speak basically. Tate is a G btw lol.

By being in the military you didn't miss anything by not having free time to date.

It only takes about 24-48hrs with a young women to realize just what a nightmare you've got yourself into.

The wisdom comes with age, the cynicism is a natural evolution because you're brutally honest and not lying to yourself anymore.

Watch the movies from the 50's and 60's and look at the women, now look at the women today.

It's over folks, the genie is out of the bottle and he can't be put back in. The 70's where the beginning of the destruction of the west, I know I had 4 step dads by the time I was 18, I know all about crazy women because I was raised by one.

 

[JamesDoe350]

i love you guys and my wife is going to love you guys too. im going to print these off and read them every time i think about leaving my wife because the grass is greener then ill realize that its green because all the shits its fertilized with.

i hope the best to the single bros out there man. lol

times get really hard, personally, id fine someone from a third world country so when i get her a new pair of socks she thinks im the king. lol

 

[Azrael]

i hope the best to the single bros out there man. lol

Thanks friend. Lord knows we need it! lol

 

[Thrasymachus]

times get really hard, personally, id fine someone from a third world country so when i get her a new pair of socks she thinks im the king. lol

No such thing.

Hollywood has sent propaganda all across the world that every American is living like a king, the 3rd world doesn't have a clue at the level of poverty in this country that is hidden thanks to massive debt.

That third world bride you take in would quickly become demanding like a crack addict. It would take just a few months before she is bombarded with consumerist messaging and confronted with the possibility of you going deep into debt to keep her new found consumer addictions going.

I've seen lots of western men flush their lives down the toilet trying to keep some mail order bride happy from a poor country. I had a friend that had a bride from Philippines that ran up about $180K in credit card debt. I've seen the same thing happen with Russian brides as well, they are even worse.

Look at the massive immigration that is pouring into the country, they claim the desire for a better life, they're just here to suck and bleed us dry and they know it. They know the American people are suckers and so are the men that take in a women thinking they won't be taken advantage.

And also keep in mind, women are cheating on their husbands these days more often then men are. Of course this drops off when the shine of youth for women wears off, which is around 30.

If you have a women that isn't stirring up financial problems, count yourself lucky.